LOVE: Where did all the sad stories go?

Since the beginning of times, a great deal of the history of the world has been powered by one of the most complex feelings (or sometimes by the lack of it), and it is only those stories where love is depicted as the creator of something great that we remember as heart-warming tales. But what about all those stories where love is not the winner? What about all those times where love did not conquered, and nobody won? Those forsaken stories are part of our own history as relational beings, and they like to be forgotten because, as much as love is soothing, it is also very painful: it is this bittersweet feeling where you exchange moments of the greatest grief for a few moments of the biggest joy in which one gets as close as it gets to heaven.
But this is about all these other stories where love did not win, about going deep into this frustrating emotion and knowing how natural it is to loose in this game of love. This emotion of loss is felt at least once by every person in the world, and no matter how natural, it is still one of the worst pains. From all of your body parts, the most vulnerable of all is that one that stands for the heart, not the one that beats the blood around the body, but the one that feels. This abstract heart that lies within the hidden parts of your mind is the one that cries loudly every time love is gone.
The pain of the heart comes always with disappointment, and these feelings altogether produce nasty physical sensations. I once heard that when in love, the human brain produces a very big amount of chemical substances that generate pleasure, called PEA’s (for Phenylethylamines). The point of producing PEA’s is to generate positive stimuli on the body and maintain the person alert, this later is traduced by the brain as something good and will want to repeat the experience (it is supposed to be a natural selection and adaptation mechanism so species can reproduce themselves), furthermore, PEA’s, which are chemically related to the amphetamine drug family, also produce dependence, and when there is no PEA’s on the brain, the person will be submerged into something similar to a drug suppression syndrome (physiological reaction that causes big anxiety to get the drug on the organism). Among the everyday stuff that contains PEA’s, chocolate is the one that contains one of the highest concentrations, that is why, according to some scientists, some people tend to eat in order to cure the pain of their hearts.
Once, a friend of mine told me that love is a friendship set on fire, and there’s nothing like burning along with somebody at the same time, but just like any other burn, it hurts too much when the fire is gone, this means that one must make an effort to keep this fire alive. Nevertheless, sometimes letting it go off is the best thing to be done. We all listen to the stories of our grandparents, where the fire was kept alive for more than 60 years, yet how many times were they burnt before, or how many fires did they have to put out in their own years?
The thing with love is that in order to get it right, one must shoot blindly many times, and if you don’t know your target or you cannot even see it, the chances of getting the right shot are much reduced. Some people even spend their whole lives shooting, looking for the right person, and finally die without any victory. I would guess it is wise to take a potentially good chance trying to make it the right person just to see if things work out, and then, probably the fire will die within a long time, or maybe it will be a short time, it is impossible to know, but it is an acknowledged fact that he who accepts to love, accepts to suffer as well. You can’t have one thing without the other, at least not in this world.
The only time we hear about these sad stories is when we pay close attention to everyday music, stories of betrayal and pain are painted at least in every album in this world, and this makes evident how natural it is to suffer for love. I could write a huge list of songs speaking about tragic breakups, and getting over someone. Probably the most common cause of pain in this world is love and the lack of it. People killing for surviving, families being separated because of wars, children starving to death, it is all about the love that is missing, this on the other hand, does not make minimal the pain of everyday love.
So when love is gone, where do the broken hearts go? They probably go home, turn the TV on while eating a whole box of chocolate, others lock to themselves, some others go and drown their pain in a bar, and others decide never to love again. In other words, they go and grieve their own way. So now that you are lying on the couch crying with a cheesy film, while you eat whatever you found in the larder and fridge, look at how you are not alone, how everybody has suffered what you are going through, and believe me, it shall pass. If you decided you’ll never fall in love again, you are living in a big lie as well, because tomorrow when you forget about this problem, you will see another someone who will make your heart skip some beats.
In the big picture, we forget about this stories, because there will always be a whole new different and great story later on, none of them the same, and all of them unforgettable, because in the end, it is all about the great stuff. And it is up to us to be decided to suffer awful weeks for enjoying the best days, I do believe it is worth it, because on the final balance, the one best day weights far more than a handful of terrible weeks.